I’m in the final marketing stages of my book’s release, but I’m pulling the presses to rewrite the Afterword. It still needs to go to my copy editor, but I wanted to release this on the same day I’m deleting Facebook and Twitter…
I put my pen down on this book months ago, but now — mere days before going to press — I wonder at the timeliness of this memoir. The world has changed dramatically. A pandemic has convinced governments to shut down entire economies, the election of an American president appears to have been compromised, and tech companies are cancelling those who attempt to counter the conventional view on the world’s most important news. Unbelievable as it seems, these things are happening right before our eyes. Social smearing plays a significant role in all of this as media attempts to shame, belittle, and silence the concerns of people like you and me. The world has radically changed, and it is disturbing.
Let me ask you a question: Why did you pick up this book? Think back to the initial hook that drew you into my story. I doubt it was to make you laugh or be inspired, as there is little more bleak than social smearing. This is a memoir of tragedy, hardly light material. I bet you were looking for answers to this modern phenomena of social smearing. You are either socially smeared yourself, or you’re concerned about the broader, global problem we face in our social media world. You are just as disturbed as I am. I hope my story helps make better sense of it all.
If you’re like me, you’re asking yourself, “What can I do?”
The story you just finished gives you some practical answers. Explore the hidden truths of your smear, restore relationships with strategic persuasion and love, and rebuild your reputation with a firm grounding in the truth. Tough as it may seem, I believe you can weather your storm and come out stronger in the end, just as I have. Get back on track on your unique path in life, and if social smearing is your next mountain in your way, then move it! Embrace the strategies in this book and, with truth on your side, you will be victorious.
Let me tell you what I’m doing.
I’m doing the same thing I did when I initially responded to my social smear. Recall the beginning of the book, my life rocked by the online fabrications and lies about my family. If these attacks came from strangers I would have responded with my expert tools of persuasion, launched a full-scale invasion into the online world of debate, and would have likely succeeded. But my fight came from within my family, from precious children whom I love. Instead I leaned in and sought the answers I needed to help get me through my storm. I traveled across the country to connect with advocates and adversaries alike, even a trip around the globe to Australia. My social media presence fell flat as I withdrew from the noise and regained my footing in life.
Was I afraid? Of course I was, you know that. But I had few options other than scrounge up enough courage to embrace the new narrative of my socially smeared life and seek the truth. As you and I now know (as they say, hindsight is 20/20), my “withdrawal” had purpose and meaning to it. I retreated, retooled and regrouped my family, and eventually reentered life’s great war that is my calling.
I admit, I live a complicated life — kids and grandkids, careers and businesses, etc. — and I enjoy the chaos of my supersized lifestyle. But I sometimes wish I were more of a simpleton. Decisions would be much easier. As I witness the draining, divisive, and deceiving tactics of social media and Big Tech, I feel the same draw to withdraw. I’m retreating to find the spot of my journey through life where I am in lockstep with God and His will in my life. I need simplification, a new routine or system, solid ground for which to plot my next plan. I’ve got more questions than answers at the moment. I feel I’m venturing onto a new journey yet to be determined.
Today, two weeks before my first wave of books hit the shelves, I applied more of my own advice and cancelled my Facebook and Twitter accounts. This is definitely simpleton behavior for an author with a substantial following. I run the risk of losing paying customers and markets that could exponentially grow into lucrative and impactful opportunities. But these tools have led me off my path too many times lately. I’m like an addict who is letting go of his addiction. Yes, I’m withdrawing, and I will certainly feel “withdrawals” in coming weeks and months. However, I’m in this race for the long haul, not temporary satisfaction. I seek truth, and I believe I will find it in the end.
I hope the same for you. We all have our battles and trials in this Brave New World, and I suspect our greatest are yet to come. While I hope you enjoyed the story of this book, I hope even more that it will help you on your journey. Consider me a friend willing to help or listen, someone you can count on to encourage you through whatever God is calling you to do. Lord knows I seek the same kind of friendship in you.
Keep up with the development of Facing Hate: Memoir of a Social Smear here.