- Publisher: Monument Publishing
- Available in: Perfect Paperback
- Available: January 1, 2021
Overcoming Social Smearing, Recovering Relationships, and Rebuilding Your Reputation
Facing Hate is a memoir of my journey through social smearing. Others will glean from my story — whether they’re victim of social smearing or they’re wound up in a hateful “mob” — they, too, can restore relationships and rebuild their reputation.
My smear started in 2014 when the idea of ruining someone’s life with little more than a social media account and line of gossip was rare. Not so today. Those with keyboards and an axe to grind can bring ruin to a life, a family, a business. In my case all three were brought to their knees and nearly ruined. The mob’s weapons of choice are online shaming, censorship, character assassination and ultimately canceling.
And they’ve been largely successful. Few make it through an online social smearing, and even when they do, they are forever changed, forever weathered from the new narrative written by mobs of hate.
But no one deserves it. Though social smearing appears to be accepted in today’s online world, it is an evil beast that must be defeated. My story reveals how.
Facing Hate is releasing online!
Chapters will release through the end of 2020 and be removed once the book publishes on Amazon. Subscribers to ChrisJeub.com will receive notification at every chapter release. Here is the chronological schedule, and click through as they are released:
What is “social smearing”? You need to know. It is a raging virus of which we’re all at risk. (Originally launched June 2019 before delaying publishing of the book.)
Before diving into the behind-the-scenes details of our social smear, it helps to know the history of the Jeub family. It started 30 years ago when Wendy and I met…and it’s quite the story.
We were posting fun photos of our big happy family one day, fighting accusations of felony-level abuse the next. The most painful, unjust journey of our lives had begun.
There is no escape from an online smearing. Even traveling to Oklahoma, Minnesota and Australia provided no solace. But we weren’t running away. Instead, we were “leaning in” and embracing some hard-to-face truths of our own secret sins.
I was desperate. Those suffering from a social smear sometimes seldom find an escape from the pain and loss. But my escape eventually came several months later with a confrontation with the truth and a bombshell encounter with my accuser.
Freedom from my social smearing would take offline experiences, not an online victory. The next opportunity revealed itself sooner than I would have guessed, and it turned out to be a significant win that helped move the mountain that was crushing me and my family.
Most see Wendy and me as a rock-solid married couple. But our foundation was so shaken that we turned on each other, nearly breaking our marriage. Hiking out of this dark valley was the most difficult journey of our lives.
A parent picked up all the online gossip about me, old news by now. The school “hired an abuser,” she posted, and she set up a Facebook group and started lobbying for my termination. The fight of my life continued.
Did the mob accept defeat? No. They left their social media platforms for more-legit media, appealing to the Colorado Springs Gazette.
We’ve all witnessed online hatred ruin people, businesses, and ministries. Why? The online mob continues to seek and kill and destroy, and I think I know the reason. And I must confess that I helped in training them to do so.
Appeals to sympathy don’t matter to the mad mob. We must stand against them. But how? I have an answer, and it has to do with REAL debate.
Sometimes engaging the hateful mob is needed, but using traditional argumentation and debate tactics will get you nowhere. Consider advanced persuasion, as well as the costs of doing so.
Most people today struggle with this social dilemma: We have online narratives that contrast with our true lives. Worse yet, we’re waking up to the realization that we have been manipulated to believe in one against the other.
My family gathers weekly for breakfast, a tradition we started a couple years ago to stay connected as adults. As my editor finished chapters, I read the book aloud to the kids and grandkids. Readings will be available as the chapters release:
Chapter 1: Joy and Anguish
Chapter 2: Our Smear
Chapter 3: Lean In
Chapter 4: Rush
Chapter 5: The Game
Chapter 6: Heart Rock
Chapter 7: Hiring the Smeared
Chapter 8: The Right to Overcome
Chapter 9: Silence
Chapter 10: How to Think
Chapter 11: Rules of Engagement
Chapter 12: Love in the House
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