TMU #11: Changing Reality

How you can change (not manipulate) reality to make you the persuasive hero

We’ve learned so far that there is a sharp contrast between reality and truth. A master persuader is able to change perspectives of reality, but there is a dark side that must be resisted. But if mastered correctly, you can be an incredibly effective influencer.

In this week’s lesson, you will learn…

  • Review of our entire semester, particular Unit III on “Reality.”
  • Overview of The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale.
  • Explanation of the classic Storyline (Conflict, Climax, Resolution) and how it relates to persuasion.
  • The “dark side” of this idea, referencing Rachel Dolezel’s attempt to change her race.
  • My personal story of how my “thinking” and “story” changed in high school.
  • The importance in telling yourself a story where you are the hero.
  • How to tell stories of others that are positive and, if done with the right perspective, can change others’ thoughts.

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  • Mary Lichlyter

    I remember Micah’s interp! I remember the whole story and the back flip! It was good when I saw it, and excellent, obviously, at Nationals! Wow!

    So… this lesson. I had to figure out what “reality” and “truth” meant in it. I’m still working on that. However, just out of curiosity, I googled, “What is the difference between truth and reality?” And this is what I found:

    https://www.quora.com/Whats-the-difference-between-truth-and-reality

    I had thought truth was what corresponded to what IS and untruth was what corresponded to what IS NOT. Silly me.

    But I have a general idea of how you’re using the terms. The “story line” idea helps. Mr. Ziglar writes about all these things as well, but he uses different terms for them. He wrote about his own children, and how changing the negative way he viewed them and talked to/about them changed their ideas about themselves and, eventually, their lives. The ways we affect each other are very significant.

    Also in Mr. Ziglar’s books is a “positive affirmation” thing with which I had so much trouble that I had to re-study it for years. I read Norman Vincent Peale’s book so long ago that most people who are living today hadn’t been born (maybe not an exaggeration), and I had forgotten how he made some good points and couldn’t back them up. “Magnetic attraction” – Brian Tracy uses that term, I think. Mr. Ziglar’s emphasis was that you could start affirming all the good qualities you need to have in your life because… not because of magnetic attraction to change the universe… because you could honestly say that you have at least a *little* bit of honesty, and a *little* bit of enthusiasm, and a *little* bit of nearly all the rest of them. The hard part was admitting that you had even a little. But it wasn’t anything magical.

    I am understanding the difference, I think, between manipulating other people’s perceptions to convince them of something you want and carefully choosing the story line, as you put it, to convince other people of something that is actually for their benefit, not just yours. Am I right in this?

    Sorry to be so lengthy, but I may well need correcting and I hope you’ll do it. I operate at turtle speed (like the turtle in the interp) and it takes me forever to get things clear.

    I’ll catch up to this week… tomorrow.

    Oh, by the way, you were going to send a copy of the C. S. Lewis book a long time ago. It never arrived. That’s not a big deal, but you need to know.

    • Hi Mary. It’s great to see you take this in. “Truth,” as I use it, is external and objective; “Reality” is internal and subjective. The former cannot be changed, and we shouldn’t think we know the truth in its purest form. The latter is what can be changed, and the control over reality is actually quite something. We should harness that ability in our relationships, our businesses, and in our own personal well-being.

      I did send you the CS Lewis book. It’s a big one. Are you going to be at the CST next month? I hope you are! I can bring the book with me.

      • Mary Lichlyter

        I can only wonder where the book went and why. I do some eBay selling, and most things get to their destinations perfectly, but once in a while something disappears. One is tempted to think it is helped to disappear. One time I mailed two R. C. Sproul books across country in a sturdy bubble envelope, and four weeks later just the front of the envelope – obviously cut out – was returned to me! I hope whoever helped them disappear read them.

        I may be the only one who needs this, but it might help if you supplied definitions of your terms in your lessons, and reiterated them frequently. “Truth” and “reality” are so often considered interchangeable. We’re not able to know objective truth perfectly (not in this world), although we can know it to some extent – enough, anyway, to know that it exists. It seems that “reality,” as you define it – subjective and coming from our own perceptions – is often called truth – or “MY truth,” whatever that means. No wonder we’re now being assured that there’s nothing out there but opinions!

        I hope to be at the tournament this month. Actually, I’m waiting for my particular tournament-participant friend to invite me officially! So you can assume I’ll be there unless I let you know otherwise.