Why Women Hate My Polyphasic Sleep Schedule

I must say, I’ve been thoroughly enjoying the Everyman Sleep Schedule. It’s a disciplined system of sleeping that attempts to maximize my sleep patterns to produce more hours in my work week. When strictly followed, I am able to create 28 more hours per week of which I would not have had.

My wise wife, Wendy, has an idea why women find my sleep schedule appalling.

My wise wife, Wendy, has an idea why women find my sleep schedule appalling.

Whenever I share my experiment with guys, they find it intriguing, even fascinating. They dream of how their life would change if they added 28 hours to their week, 60 days to their year. They consider the benefits and wonder if the lack of sleep could be overcome.

I have shared the idea with women, and I’ve received — in general — negative feedback. Sometimes hostility. Seriously! The idea disgusts them. One mom did a hefty amount of research and sent it to me to dissuade me from my experiment. When sharing this with a group of moms at a youth gathering, one mom told me to “keep it down” because the kids might hear what I’m saying. Another mom told me quite pointedly that this was contrary to how God created me.

These are generalizations, of course. I’m just observing a general trend: women tend to be appalled, men tend to be fascinated.

Wendy (who, by the way, is not joining me on my journey, but isn’t appalled at me), explained to me why her women friends are disgusted with my polyphasic sleep schedule. When you think about it, it makes a lot of sense, and it helps you better understand how the male and female brains work.

According to Mark Gunger, ask a woman which order she would place sleep, food and sex in her list of priorities, she would typically list them in this order:

  1. Sleep
  2. Food
  3. Sex

Gunger makes the case that men are the exact opposite. The order of priorities for men: Sex, Food, Sleep. Of course, these are generalizations, and yes, yes, I know there are exceptions. Gunger’s central point has brought a lot of clarity to marital problems with this: sleep is genuinely more important to women, even as important as sex is to men.

Wendy’s point was on a similar track: Women are appalled at my polyphasic sleep experiment. I find cutting sleep, minimizing sleep, devaluing sleep as all doable things. Most guys can entertain the idea. To women, it’s like cutting sex, minimizing sex, devaluing sex. In other words, how can I even think about such a thing?

Once again, my dear wife brings understanding into my life. (She’s a very wise woman.) I’ve applied this sleep schedule for the past eight months and have few issues with it. But I may tone my enthusiasm down a bit when sharing the idea with women.

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  • Thanks for sharing Chris. I understand it’s generalisation, but helps I understand most common male and female priorities.
    My wife actually loves everyday man sleep cycle due to obvious reason of having extra time to do stuff she needs. But this is also unusually busy compared to statistical mother I think.

  • BulldogPT

    My wife commented yesterday that she thot it would be great for her sewing projects and all. She was concerned that she would awaken others and be freezing as her thermostat is way different than ours.

  • Melody Ray

    This reminds me of a story from the comic David Sedaris, where Sedaris talks about his dad getting his 8 eights of sleep whenever and where ever he could, as opposed as just sleeping straight through the night. The only problem was that friends would wonder why his parents didn’t always sleep in the same bed, or in the same room. I am a follower of polyphasic sleep, although I didn’t know there was a name for it until I read this post. I find it to help with my insomnia and my often changing schedule. I’ve always read that the body needs to be on some kind of schedule, and although my sleep schedule doesn’t line up as accurately as the Everyman sleep schedule, it totally works for me.

    The critique I find about my schedule is usually that I am called lazy if I happen to take a nap or two during the day, even if I’ve been up all night working. Sleeping during the day seriously offends some my friends and family. I can see where it’s a problem if a husband and wife or two people in a relationship want to sleep next to each other. For me it seems natural and I feel safe sleeping next to my significant other, and he doesn’t understand why I can’t just lay down and sleep “like normal people do”. So I usually compromise by sleeping part of the night in my bedroom, but lately the night-time, especially after 3am, is just when I feel the most creative and can get stuff done. And I agree that it’s awesome to be the only one awake and have the house to yourself. I think more people could benefit from this Everyman sleep idea, and I thank you for finally providing me with a name to this idea.

    • I have a friends who’s doing this to fight insomnia. He’s reporting that it is helping.

  • Tim Hardesty

    What if men and woman asked to prioritize these four items: Sleep, Food, Sex and Work? I think that men would probably place work as #2, and woman would place it as #3. This would even further validate why woman would be opposed ot polyphasic sleep.

  • Dmitry

    Hi, guys. I am a polyphasic sleeper for almost 2 years and I sleep 4,5 hours a day. Me and my friends made lots of experiments on this fied and we want to share our experience. We decided to create a mobile application that would be an essential guide to polyphasic sleep experience for everyone.

    Check our website: http://www.smartsleepteam.com

    We alredy have a functioning prototype that we use in our everyday life, but we need funds to finish it and launch to pruduction. So we created a company on kickstarter.

    We apreciate any feedback, proposals and contributions. If you have any questions please contact us.

    • A polyphasic app??? Dmitry, this is totally awesome! I’ll be a supporter to your kickstarter campaign. Keep me posted!

      • Dmitry

        Thanks a lot Chris. We apreciate this help, especially on the initial stage of our project. We’ve already sent our press kit to more than 300 resources and by the way we got our first publication on the core polyphasic sleep portal – http://www.polyphasicsociety.com/. So our campaign starts moving forward as well))

        • Awesome. There are a few topics that really generate interest on my blog and in my day-to-day conversations. People are fascinated with polyphasic sleep, so I bet your campaign will do quite well.

        • Dmitry, check out this much more popular article I wrote last month: https://chrisjeub.com/my-fascinating-4-hour-sleep-schedule/

          It even got the attention of Michael Hyatt in the comment section. He’s a big biphasic guy.

          • Dmitry

            Thanks I’ll try to connect him.